1 Conversation
Difficulty to acquire: 6/10
Though it might not strike you as much of
a skill when you’re shooting the bull with
friends, conversation with women — in
whom you’re interested and whom you
don’t know well — is a skill, and one that
takes some practice. Listening and
actually paying attention becomes
infinitely more important. You want to
come across as both confident and
empathetic, which is something of a
balancing act. Being able to explain and
adequately express yourself, though, can
easily cover for lacking any of these other
skills, which is why it’s so crucial.
2 Style and grooming
Difficulty to Acquire: 2/10
Every guy has his own personal style, but
there’s a thin line between hipster
carelessness and looking like a slob. It’s
better to stay a comfortable distance on
the clean-cut side of that line. There’s
nothing difficult or even time-consuming
about good grooming, but women often
complain that men simply don’t bother to
take care of their appearances, and the
only excuse to let yourself go completely
is laziness.
3 Bedroom skills
Difficulty to acquire: 6/10
s*x is important, even if not for its own
sake, then because women often read
into it emotionally and assign it its own
relevance as an indicator of how you feel
about them
4 Handyman skills
Difficulty to acquire: 4/10
This broad category covers everything a
man can reasonably be expected to do in
maintaining a home and doing basic
repairs; none of this stuff is as
complicated as working with a car, and it
mostly comes down to having the right
tools for the job and being willing to get
your hands dirty. There’s virtually nothing
the internet can’t tell you how to fix, but
it’s no less impressive to a woman when
you can be relied upon for all those
repairs
5 Athletics
Difficulty to acquire: 6/10
As much as women want you to have an
emotional, sensitive side, they still want
you to be a man, and playing a tough,
physically demanding sport is about as
masculine as it gets. Bragging about your
golf game might impress your coworkers,
but it doesn’t have quite the same impact
to a woman as boxing, football or some
other high-intensity, testosterone-fueled
activity.
6 Cooking
Difficulty to acquire: 3/10
You don’t have to take classes or start
shopping for expensive cookware — just
start small. Every woman, everywhere, is
just a little bit pleasantly surprised to
discover that a man can cook, actually
wants to cook and seems to genuinely
know what he’s doing, so begin by
perfecting a handful of recipes. The bonus
here is that you’ll soon be eating better
and tastier food yourself. Once you’ve
mastered a few classics (like making the
perfect steak and some side dishes),
expand your repertoire as you see fit.
7 Dancing
Difficulty to acquire: 4/10
If there’s one way to demonstrate that
you’re confident, easygoing and
approachable all at once, it’s dancing. On
the surface, dancing is pretty
straightforward, and there’s certainly
nothing hard about it — you’re moving
your body rhythmically, and how you’re
doing it isn’t too important. The hangup
here is feeling that you’re too
uncoordinated or too shy to try, in which
case it may seem daunting.
8 Fixing a car
Difficulty to acquire: 6/10
Learning how to fix a car will probably
seem daunting if engines have mystified
you up until this point, but luckily you
don’t really need to know much. The
objective is to understand enough that
you maintain your car correctly and can
actually diagnose car troubles (particularly
in the company of a woman) instead of
just opening the hood and looking
puzzled. Besides, knowing the basics will
make you seem like less of a rube to
dishonest mechanics.
9 Playing an instrument
Difficulty to acquire: 7/10
For starters, playing an instrument well is
just an impressive ability, period. It
speaks volumes, to men and women
alike, about your character. On the other
hand, where another man might just
respect your ability to master what is, for
most people, not an easy skill, women
will equate your ability to play an
instrument with a poetic sensibility they
might not otherwise have recognized in
you.
10 Speaking other languages
Difficulty to acquire: 8/10
Certainly the hardest skill on this list to
pick pick up as an adult, speaking a
foreign language is a sign either of
dedication (that you’ve taken the time and
effort to learn) or of worldliness, and
women will be intrigued by both of those,
particularly if you don’t flaunt the ability
and just let it come up at the right
moment. Obviously you’re not going to
learn a language overnight, but the
resources are endless — you only need to
supply the time.
Thursday, May 30, 2013
10 SKILLS TO IMPRESS WOMEN.
7 CURES FOR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
From not enough money to too much
stress, there are many common triggers
for relationship issues. But can your
union be saved?
According to the top relationship experts,
there are certain things you need to
understand about yourself and your
partner:
1. Understand relationship phases.
Relationships have three general phases:
romantic, conflict and commitment.
Unless they’re sending you a serious red
flag, it’s hard to figure out if someone’s a
keeper in the romantic phase.
“This is the stage where it’s all fun,” says
Richo, a psychotherapist (DaveRicho.com)
and author of How to Be an Adult in
Relationships (Shambhala). “Neither
person will show their dark side very
much, so you don’t have a picture of the
whole person.”
So when do you really know whether he’s
that special someone? When the masks
come off, says Richo. Which is why
fighting from the very start about money,
work and how many times you have s*x a
week can threaten even the most
promising unions.
What’s key is how you handle these
relationship stages and working through
relationship issues appropriately.
2. Admit your emotional dependence.
Making an emotional connection is what
people hunger for the most, says Sue
Johnson, a professor of clinical psychology
at the University of Ottawa and author of
Hold Me Tight (Little Brown and
Company).
Recognizing and admitting that you’re
emotionally dependent on your partner
can transform key moments in your
relationship and bring you closer than
ever.
“All the evidence shows that when you
feel safe, connected and sure, you’re
better at taking care of your partner, at
talking about everything from kids to
s*x,” Johnson says. As a result, you’ll have
a more satisfying s*x life.
People often feel ashamed about needing
emotional ties. “Not just men either,” she
says. “Women say this means I’m weak or
immature. I shouldn’t need this comfort
from him.”
3. Show your love the right way.
Attention, acceptance, appreciation,
affection – as well as respect for each
other’s deepest needs and wishes – is the
foundation of a good relationship, Richo
says. To improve your relationship, help
your partner know what he means to you
by expressing these 4 A’s.
“Love isn’t based on the amount of
adrenaline we feel coursing through our
bodies, but rather whether we’re present
in those five ways,” he says. “I know I love
someone when I show those four A’s and
I know they love me when they show
them in return.”
Unfortunately, we often mistake that first
rush of hormones for true love.
“The pitter-patter excitement of a heart
skipping a beat is all OK in the romantic
phase,” Richo explains, “but that can’t be
your ultimate test of whether love is
real.”
4. Embrace “Me, me, me!”
Sound selfish? Not at all, says Alison
Armstrong, founder of the Understanding
Men series of workshops
(UnderstandMen.com) and author of
Making Sense of Men (Pax Programs).
“Before you commit to someone else, get
clear about what is most important in
your life and spend your time, money
and energy on that.”
In fact, most people are attracted to
those who feel comfortable in their own
skin, she says.
5. Fight, yes, but don’t be cruel.
Happy, functional couples fight – it’s part
of the deal (and make-up s*x is the happy
ending). But when unhappy couples brawl,
it can be like War of the Roses. And
nothing brings a troubled relationship
down faster.
“A lot of couples’ therapy is helping
people fight in a nicer way,” Johnson says.
Happy couples who feel secure with one
another probably won’t get as mean as
those who aren’t feeling love from their
partner.
“They can find a way to reach for each
other” and make “safe, emotional
connections,” Johnson says.
Her No. 1 fighting rule: Don’t turn your
partner into the enemy. “Try to listen to
your own needs and fears that are coming
up in these fights,” she says. It’ll help you
feel secure with each other, even in the
midst of battle.
Another difference: Even in the midst of
a fight, healthy couples feel safe, they can
“call” for their partner and their partner
will come, Johnson says.
6. Examine your definition of trust.
Traditionally, a relationship based on
trust meant, “I trust you to be faithful and
keep your agreements,” Richo says.
But in modern times, your definition of
trust needs to also create room for the
inevitabilities of life and love, and how
you handle them, he says, such as:
“I trust myself to appreciate that you will
keep your agreements and work things
out with me.”
“I trust myself to receive that with
appreciation, and I also trust myself to
handle the times when you don’t come
through, when you don’t keep
agreements.”
“And in those times, I trust myself to try
to work it out and not to retaliate.”
People aren’t perfect, and they’re not
always as loving and loyal as they intend
to be or you want them to be.
Even though “you’re totally open to your
partner’s trustworthiness, the trust is in
myself,” Richo says. “If and when
something happens to contradict that, I’m
not going to fall apart.”
7. Get to the real heart of the problem.
You know those arguments where your
partner complains about the dirty dishes
in the sink and you end up defending
yourself or shutting down?
The real problem is deeper, Johnson says.
“This isn’t about whether to build a new
cottage,” Johnson says. “This is about the
fact that I’m scared if we build a new
cottage, you’ll spend a lot of time up
there and withdraw from me and I’ll feel
lonely.”
Getting to the truth of feelings driving
the fight – and sharing those truths – is
key to a happy love life.
Likewise, recognizing the wounds that
make you react impulsively is the first
step in healing them, Johnson says. Those
raw spot forms when your attachment
needs aren’t met and you feel
emotionally deserted.
WAYS TO KNW U RE IN LUV.
Your Brain Acts Like It’s on Drugs
Studies have shown that when you’re
falling in love, the rush of chemicals that
flood your brain—oxytocin, dopamine,
adrenaline and vasopressin—are similar to
the types of chemicals released by heroin
You May Get a Little Overshare-y
An hour ago, you were strangers. Now
you’re spilling how you slept with a
stuffed bunny ’til you were 10. Your
brain decides in 20 minutes whether or
not a person is trustworthy—so feeling
safe swapping stories is a good sign
you’re on your way to a solid bond.
You Get a Spine-Tingling Rush
You know those shivers that start when
you hear an awesome song like “Rollin’
in the Deep” or see a beyond-beautiful
sunset? Well, those same tinglies occur
when you’re crushing hard on a dude,
too.
Ryan Gosling? Meh.
When you’re in love, guys you formerly
thought were droolworthy lose a lot of
their appeal. Scientists believe this is
evolutionary: In caveman times, it
made sense to stick with a mate long
enough to raise a child together. Now?
Expect your The Notebook DVD to
gather some dust.
You Don’t Snap at Bitchy People
When you dig a guy, your brain pumps
your bod full of the so-called “love
drug” hormone oxytocin—which
scientists theorize makes you feel
more friendly and sociable.
You Get Less Headaches
Who needs ibuprofen? Research has
found that oxytocin may actually
minimize migraines.
You Can See It In Your Eyes
When you see someone you’re
attracted to, your pupils dilate. Even
cooler? Research has found that people
rate faces with larger pupils as more
attractive than ones without, so all that
eye contact is only making you hotter.
You Feel Less Stressed
Kissing decreases the stress hormone
cortisol flowing through your bod,
meaning a few makeout sessions can
totally chill you out.
8 WAYS TO CHEER UP...
Everyone feels vulnerable, sad, and lonely
from time to time but if you know how to
cheer yourself up, then you’ll get through
many of those tough moments just fine.
If you’re just having a bad day (or week)
and need to cheer up, try some of the
following. I hope you feel better soon!
1. Make your own CHEER UP book. If
you’re experiencing lots of days of feeling
down, you might benefit from creating
your own “Cheer Up” book. Create a list
(like this one) of every activity you can
think of that will cheer you up. Type it up,
add some pictures, print it out, and have it
bound.
2. Breathe. Deep breathing is a relaxation
technique that releases tension from the
body and clears the mind. You tend to
breathe shallowly or even hold your
breath when you are feeling anxious. Many
people do this and are not even aware of
it. Shallow breathing limits your oxygen
intake and adds further st
3.Water. Drink some water. Mmmmm…
water. Dehydration can cause a variety of
problems, including imbalances in your
noggin. So fill up a glass with that clear
liquid and take it down. While you’re at it,
why don’t you take a multivitamin just for
good measure? Don’t stop at that one
glass. Be sure to have a few through the
rest of the day.
4. Hugs. If a friend or loved one is
available, go snag a hug from them. You
have to give a hug to get one. Sometimes
all we need is a good old fashion hug. A
study by University of North Carolina
researchers found that hugs increase the
“bonding” hormone oxytocin and decrease
the risk of heart disease. Touch also
releases two feel-good brain chemicals,
serotonin and dopamine.
5. Play with a dog. If you don’t have one,
go get one! When I say play, I mean really
play. Get down on the ground, chase her
around, throw her “ball” and have a good
old time. You’ll be spreading some love,
exercising, and making both you and her
feel better.
6. Caffeine. Go get a soda or coffee (iced
or hot). Caffeine is a natural mood
enhancer. J Not only does it taste good in
coffee and soda and make you feel better
– it also helps to get out of the house to
get some fresh air. For a couple dollars,
this is a cheap and pleasurable pick-me-up.
7. Call a friend. Open up that cell phone,
and start going down the contact list. If
you’re not willing to call them (unless it’s a
professional contact), then maybe you
should delete them. Family members and
friends should be available to support one
another. A good old-fashion chat will add a
new perspective on life in general, and it
might provide some pleasant distraction
from whatever is getting you down.
8. Watch a funny movie. If you have the
time, slip in one of your favorite comedies
or go rent one. And when you get to the
funny parts, give yourself permission to
laugh and laugh hard. Laughter is very
good for you, especially when you don’t
think you can.
These should lift your spirits right up!
Commit to just 15 minutes, and you’ll be
surprised how much you’ll want to keep
going after your 15 minutes are up.
Hmmmm
PICK UR BATTLES IN UR RELATIONSHIP AND SAVE IT.
You learn a lot when you become part of a
pair. When you get into a relationship,
things that never made sense to you when
you were single start to become a little
more clear. I’ve learned a lot from being
in a new relationship. Though it’s only
been a few months, I feel like I’m
maturing, learning, and growing every day.
We all know that as we grow older, we gain
life experiences. We make mistakes, and
then we learn the lessons. I’ve definitely
tried to take all the lessons I’ve learned
from past relationships and used them to
my full advantage. In my new relationship,
I’m basically trying not to be an idiot. I
make a conscious effort everyday to
evaluate how I am behaving in my
relationship.
Being in a relationship is one of the most
wonderful, joyful, and life-affirming things
there is. When I’m in love, nothing can
be too terrible. The sun’s pretty much
always shining. But there is a flip side to
this. Relationships are also stressful,
complicated, and probably one of the
hardest things to get right in life.
Relationships are filled with anxiety and
pressures and over-thinking. I’m
ridiculously happy in my relationship, don’t
get me wrong, but we have our days.
You know, those days. Everything they do
annoys you. You take everything they say
the wrong way. You just cannot get in the
groove. You bicker. You fight. You roll your
eyes. Your defenses are up, and you’re
ready for battle. A few years ago, I would
have fought every single little fight on
days like that. I would have taken offense
to something so petty and unintentional
and turned it into World War III.
Aren’t we all a little guilty of this?
Sometimes we pick fights for attention
(negative or otherwise). Sometimes it’s out
of boredom. Sometimes it’s because we’re
actually hurt and want to get it all out in
the open. We choose to fight to test the
waters. How much can this relationship
handle? How strong are we? Let’s fight and
see! Looking back, I have no idea why this
behavior was ever an option. These days,
I’m doing things differently. I’m learning to
pick my battles.
Picking your battles takes patience and
critical thinking. It means looking at the
situation you’re in and really analyzing it.
You have to think about the real reason
why you’re about to start this fight. Is it
really something worth arguing about? Are
you just being mad to be mad? Are you
even slightly affected by this situation?
It is so easy to get into the routine of
arguing when you’re comfortable in a
relationship. You fight for the passion
because coupled life has gotten dull. You
fight for the entertainment of it. You fight
for the anticipated makeup. We pout and
“get mad” for the attention that we know
our partner will give us back. We test our
partners. We push them to see how much
they’ll push back. We all do this, but I have
learned that you can have that passion
without having to fight and argue. You be
reassured that your significant other loves
you in other (healthier!) ways.
Before you open your mouth and know
you’re going to say something that might
start a fight, ask yourself these questions:
Is this really something that is going to
affect my life? Am I even mad about this?
Is this worth my time? If your answer is no
to all or any, then say nothing. Close your
mouth. Don’t pick this battle. Let it the hell
go. Spend that time you’re wasting being
angry and use it to better your
relationship. If you’re actually upset,
address the situation, talk it out and then
let it go. There is nothing worse for a
relationship than beating an argument to
death. You’re both going to be exhausted
by the time you go over the whole
argument for a fifth time. All you’re doing
is wasting your precious time!
Sometimes when I’m pouting and “mad” at
my boyfriend, I will think to myself, “At
this very moment, I am wasting our time
—our time as a couple, our time as
separate people.” The moments I spend
silent and grumpy are moments that I
could be using to talk to my boyfriend,
laugh with him and love him. Why am I
throwing away time with him that could be
spent in better ways?
That is always the reality check for me.
I’m sure there are many things that your
significant other does that may bother or
annoy you, but how many of them truly
affect you in a negative way? Remember
that your boyfriend or girlfriend is not
perfect. They are going to make mistakes.
They are going to say things you don’t like.
They’re going to disagree with you. They’ll
disappoint you. And you will do all of these
things to them too. But if the love there
then there shouldn’t be room for
unnecessary arguments. Rather than
jumping the gun and starting a fight, take a
breath . Think critically. Hold your tongue.
Fight less, love more.
DECLARE STATE EMERGENCY ON CORRUPTION--Ken Nnamani
Ken Nnamani
Ken Nnamani has called on President
Goodluck Jonathan to declare a state of
emergency on corruption, if that will
address the menace.
The former Senate President also said if
corruption, which is one of Nigeria’s major
problems must be nipped in the bud,
especially as it affected award of contracts,
attention must be paid to Public Private
Partnership, PPP.
Speaking when he appeared before the
Senator Ayogu Eze-led Senate Committee
on Works, Senator Nnamani noted that $8
trillion was currently what the private
sector in the world was controlling, adding
that it was only the private sector that
ccould control corruption.
According to him, it is not business as
usual in the private sector, as private
investors monitor their businesses.
He added that First Bank Plc, a private
sector driven organisation, had a balance
sheet that was more than the nation’s
budget.
Nnamani was at the Senate with other
designated members of the governing
board of the Infrastructure Concession and
Regulatory Commission, ICRC. The former
Senate President is the chairman of the
board of ICRC.
The former Senate President, who told the
senators that he was coming to the
National Assembly for the first time since
2007, was, however, not asked any
question by the senators, in line with the
National Assembly’s procedures of asking
former lawmakers to simply take a bow
and go.
Earlier, Chairman of the Committee,
Senator Ayogu Eze, PDP, Enugu, said it was
not the intention of the Senate to allow
Nnamani stay for more than two minutes,
adding that the Senate was contemplating
whether to invite him and take a bow.
He added that Nnamani was not
summoned, but expected to have a
handshake with the senators and take a
bow.
Other members of the Board are Barrister
Aminu Dikko; Mrs Comfort Ken Saro Wiwa;
Engr. Janet Febisola Adeyemi; Mrs Yabawa
Wabi; Musa Elayo and Barrister A.U. Kanu.
[Vanguard]
THE TELL-TALE SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION.
People who may be suffering from depression or manic disorders actually exhibit or show each and every kind of symptom of depression that doctors will tell you that depressed people have. Sometimes it’s actually quite easy to overlook such symptoms and not be able to help one’s self or others who are suffering from depression for that matter.
There are actually a lot of symptoms of depression that depressed people may actually posses but they don’t have to suffer from each and every one of them before you actually help them get diagnosed and be treated for this illness. Also, since symptoms of depression actually vary, the time of their "attacks" varies as well.
Here are some common examples of symptoms of depression:
Prolonged period of sadness or not feeling "up to it," people who are always feeling not in the mood, who’d rather mope around the house and feel sorry for one’s self is the best example for this symptom of depression.
Feels hopeless, perennial pessimist: speaking of feeling sorry for one’s self, another common symptom of depression is when a person actually feels like he/she has nothing to look forward to in his or her life. As for being the perennial pessimist, those who show this symptom of depression are usually very negative about things, again, the feeling of hopelessness comes in to mind.
Guilt-driven, loss of self-worth and helplessness: other symptoms of depression that can be easily seen on people who prefer to mope around all day long are these. Whenever a person feels so guilty over something, that actually makes one a very sad person who feels like he or she doesn’t deserve to be happy. Thus, the loss of self-worth, if that person feels like he or she isn’t worthy of being happy or enjoying one’s self then that’s clear tell-tale symptom of depression. Helplessness also contribute to being depressed, when assuming that things won’t simply go your way, it’s already a clear saying that you have absolutely no hope in your body at all.
Isn’t interested in finding or taking pleasure; just dropping the hobbies as well as the other things that one used to enjoy: this tell-tale symptom of depression just shows how depressed a person can be, if one is actually too sad to take pleasure even in the very things that one loves then that person is seriously lacking something, rather, that person might well have caught the depression bug.
Fatigue, always tired: people suffering from depression, since they’ve lost whatever interest in life that they may have had before are actually lacking of physical energy at all times, if one would prefer to just mope around, probably won’t even eat not get enough sleep, a depressed person may well be on their way to not just a mental illness but depression can actually be terrible for one’s physical health as well.
Having trouble concentrating, having bad memory and is indecisive: a person who is suffering from depression easily gives away this tell-tale symptom of depression. Wherein one’s lack of interest with regards to the outside world or for just about anything for that matter can lead to that person’s inability to lose track of things and actually not be able to remember things that happened or what other people said. Lack of interest actually makes depressed people very inattentive.
There are actually more symptoms of depression that can actually help you see if a person (or you) needs to be brought to the doctor to get some help when it comes to depression: lacking sleep, sleeping too much or waking up at wee hours of the morning are all symptoms of depression (if it happens on a daily basis), appetite loss as well as eating too much may show one’s lack of enthusiasm for life. Be weary of sudden weight loss or weight gain in those around you. Being suicidal, talking about death, about wanting to die is another clear indication that that person is depressed. Being restless and irritable and physical symptoms that are usually brought about by poor mental health such as headaches, digestive disorders and various body pains.
GETTING ANXIOUS OVER ANXIETY DEPRESSION?
Getting anxious over Anxiety Depression?
A lot of people who are exerting too much of their brain power usually exhaust not only their physical strength when engaging in various multi-tasking activities, they also tend to over extend their brains up to the point when it plainly needs some good old time for relaxation. A lot of busy people who seem to cannot fathom the idea of relaxing and taking time of from work, as well as their worries, tend to actually start having nervous breakdowns, anxiety depression and all sorts of mental illnesses that can cause a person's sanity to go haywire, fortunately, if you're one of those poor unfortunate ones who are unable to distress and is constantly worried and fussing over things, there are actually available cures and various treatments for treating anxiety depression.
Anxiety depression is actually characterized by all sorts of irregularities and erratic behavior from the person who is suffering from it, this is usuallu due to certain stress triggers that may tend to easily cause a person undue jitters and stress. Also, a lot of people who tend to get easily nervous over stressful activities are actually prone to having anxiety depression, its just a matter of being strong-willed when it comes to facing difficult and stress-prone activities. It may be pretty hard to overcome at first, but trying to be calm and cool in times of extreme pressure is what'll actually save your mental health from going totally downward spiral.
When it comes to effectively curing one's self from a mental illness, one must keep in mind that you have to be actually honest with yourself and assess what kind of depression or mental illness you actually have, go to reputable psychiatrist to get yourself diagnosed correctly as well as be able to get the right depression treatment for yourself. Here are the various types of depression:
Manic or Bipolar depression - characterized by sudden and extreme changes in one's mood wherein one minute he or she is in an elevated state of euphoria while the
next minute (day or week) he or she is feeling to be in a personal hell.
Postpartum depression - characterized by a prolonged sadness and a feeling of emptiness by a new mother wherein physical stress during child birth, an uncertain sense of responsibility towards the new born baby can be just some of the possible factors why some new mother go through this.
Dysthimia - characterized by a slight similarity with depression, although this time, it's been proven to be a lot less severe, but of course with any case, should be treated immediately.
Cyclothemia - characterized by a slight similarity with Manic or Bipolar depression wherein the individual suffering from this mental illness may occasionally suffer from severe changes in one's moods.
Seasonal Affective Disorder - characterized by falling in a rut only during specific seasons (i.e. Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall) studies however, prove that more people
actually fall in to a rut more during the Winter and Fall seasons and lastly, Mood swings, wherein a person's mood may shift from happy to sad to angry in just a short time.
But the type of depression that has actually been proven to be quite common among people is anxiety depression, which is actually characterized by the state of being overly anxious about things. Anxiety, a supposedly normal behavior that'll actually help a person adjust more to a certain stressful activity like first date jitters or a grueling exam the following day. Anxiety actually helps you get psyched up towards facing certain "difficult situations"; anxiety therefore is actually a good thing. Anxiety depression however, is simply the opposite, not to be easily dismissed as a "case of the nerves"; Anxiety depression is in actuality an illness that can be caused from the biological makeup of an individual, or in other words, a hereditary illness.
Also, there are actually various types of Anxiety depression, each having its own unique characteristics. Take for example Generalized Anxiety Disorder or GAD, this kind of Anxiety depression is a lot more complicated than the average Anxiety depression, in spite of possibly being a day-to-day habit for those who suffer this kind of Anxiety depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder actually makes the individual quite more paranoid than usual, anxiety attacks are more frequent, even absurd at times. They can even be anxious even when there's no apparent reason that calls for them to behave in such a way. People suffering from Generalized Anxiety Disorder actually shows a lot of symptoms, from lack of sleep, to being unable to relax, getting tired easily, cannot concentrate on what they're doing and even suffering from depression. This kind of Anxiety depression is still curable; just a little work will actually do the trick.
Consult a reputable cognitive behavior therapist who'll help give the individual the therapy that he or she needs to help him or her loosen up, also prescribed medicines are sort of a must to help these individuals battle anxiety attacks, help them calm down and relax.
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VIRTUALY IN LOVE.
In the past, lovers used to send each other love letters that, despite obstacles and distance, kept their relationship vivant. This way, the long waiting period till they could see each other again seemed bearable.
Today, the internet became a new messenger for the lonely ones, the ones searching for a relationship or persons that want to communicate with off-shares friends or lovers and family. Aside words, in a face to face encounter partners exchange gestures, looks, caresses, inviting each other to go on. The look in her eyes can encourage you; his smile can show you how happy he is to be in your company.
Distance relationships don’t give you the advantage of seeing the gestures and reactions of the other person. You are never quite certain that your message will be appreciated. There are many factors that influent the chances to receive an answer that can live up to expectations. Despite this reality, you must use wisely the minimum of control you hold.
When sending that email, you must create an adequate atmosphere by choosing an appealing subject for your email. Write something like “For your eyes only” or “To read when you need me”.
You must always state clearly your desires and be much more forward online than in real life. If you are not, the other person might think you have forgotten everything you had.
Creating a romantic atmosphere over the internet can be tricky, but if you both want it, it can be done. All you have to do is help each other. If you are trying to understand the other person’s reaction, just test them. Send emails that use a personal tone, full of big words and somehow try to set them in an imaginary romantic and ideal world. Some world you can now refer to as your world, a world that might appeal to your interlocutor.
If you have an email describing events from your friends life, pay attention to them. Try to show you really read the email by referring to each and every moment described in a different sentence. Have opinions and give advice.
When romantically corresponding, you must rise above your real experiences. If In real life you are shy, here you are not allowed to. Just relax and create a romantic atmosphere in your room and the right words will appear themselves.
RED WINES vs WHITE WINES.
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Most of us know that wine comes from grapes that are aged. But have you ever wondered what helps the grape age properly and why red wines need more time to age than white wines?
The process of aging starts immediately after the grapes are picked, crushed and pressed. The grapes are then put into an oak barrel or steel vat, with some winemakers preferring to add oak chips to the vat. During the aging process acids, sugar and tannin interact. By having more tannin present the winemaker is able to age the wine for a longer period without fear of oxidation. This along with temperature, light conditions, and alcohol complete the aging process. Wines age faster with a warmer temperature. So the winemaker tries to maintain a cool
stable 55-65 degree temperature in a dark area as the ideal aging atmosphere. A big fluctuation in temperature or light conditions on a daily or weekly basis is detrimental to a good wine.
Now why are red wines aged more than white wines? A simple explanation is that all grapes are white inside, which means that red wine needs to allow the exterior skin to mix with the interior when being crushed to give it the red color. This mixture contains tannin, which also aids the aging process significantly. You also get tannin from the oak sides of the barrel. Compounds within these, known as phenolics, allow the wine to age longer while keeping the wine from oxidizing. So the red wine is able to age longer and develop a more full flavored bold taste.
White wines have these same compounds but at much lower levels. This is because the inside of the grape is what wine manufacturers mostly use and by not using as much of the exterior skin less tannin is present. This results in a considerable shorter aging process than a vat with a large amount of tannin present. Attempting to age most white wines over an extended period causes it to flatten and lose some of its aromatic freshness.
So go ahead and save that special red wine for your Grandchild’s marriage, but be sure to serve the white wine within two or three years.
Wines go through the above process to be ready for consumption. Next the wine is bottled and stored in wine cellars to finish the ageing process. Most wines are consumable when the purchased. The main reason is because no one expects to plan the dinner menu for that special party two or three years in advance in order to age the correct wine for the occasion. And how many people have a wine cellar to complete the aging process of their favorite wine?
Wine is also used in religious ceremonies in many cultures. The Bible mentions wine no less than 191 times. The references in both testaments often admonish the reader to use wine, but to use it properly and not to misuse it.
"Forsake not an old friend, for the new is not comparable to him. A new friend is as new wine: when it is old, thou shalt drink it with pleasure."
Ecclesiastes 9:10.
"Wine was created from the beginning to make men joyful, and not to make men drunk. Wine used with moderation is the joy of the soul and the heart." Ecclesiastes 31:35-36.
"Drink no longer water but use a little wine for thy stomach's sake."
I Timothy 5:23..
The health effects of wine are also the subject of considerable ongoing debate and study. In the USA, a boom in red wine consumption was touched off in the 1990s by '60 Minutes', and other news reports on the French paradox. But now research indicates that moderate red wine consumption may help protect against certain cancers and heart disease, and can have a positive effect on cholesterol levels and blood pressure. It now seems clear that regular consumption of up to 1-2 drinks a day does reduce mortality, due to 10%–40% lower risk of coronary heart disease, for those over the age of 35. This is because of the presence of antioxidants in the wine as well as significant amounts of resveratrol, which is naturally present in the grape’s skin. The original studies showed this more in red wines due to the higher concentrations of resveratrol.
Resveratrol has been shown previously to have a number of potentially beneficial
properties, including antioxidant, anticoagulant, anti-inflammatory and anti-cancer effects.
Here are a few common and uncommon global varieties of wine.
The king of white wines is Chardonnay. It has a vanilla or smoky type aroma and flavor and goes especially well with fish and white meat.
Sauvignon Blanc is another popular white wine which gives off herbal or vegetatal and an ocassional peppery aromas. It has a higher acidity level than the Chardonnay and seafood is a good match for this wine.
Semillon is often blended with Sauvignon Blanc to fill out this more acidic variety of white wines. Semillon alone has more subtle aromas and has a relatively low acidity. Its golden color along with the scent of figs and lemons adds to its attractiveness and it goes well with cheese. This is one of the few white wines that age very well.
Riesling is a excellent wine to have with food, because of its balance of sugar and acid and its relatively low acidity. It can pair with white fish just like a dry wine, or with pork, and it can also stand up to Thai and Chinese cuisine. Riesling's typical aromas are of flowers, tropical fruits, and mineral stone. This wine is almost never oaked, which then leads itself to suitability with most foods.
Frascati has been called the “Gold Wine” from the ancient Romans, and it was reported to be the favorite wine of Pope Gregorio XVI. Frascati is a vintage wine that is dry, crisp, pale yellow and fresh. It goes very well with soups, seafood, poultry and other light dishes. It is served best cold.
Chenin, the best of these wines have generally come from France, where its versatility is exploited to great effect. The sweet wines are among the longest-lasting of all wines, and the great dry white wines of the region are often listed among France's finest whites.
The Chenin is also the most widely-grown grape in South Africa, accounting for around 30 percent of the country's vines. The wine made there is generally bland and acidic, often with overtones of grass or green apples. It is for this reason that in the U.S. it often ends up in the generic jug wines of bulk producers as acidity enhancer for high sugar/alcohol blends.
Pouilly-Fuissé is a dry, medium-full bodied, white wine from France. This wine became popular the 1980’s. Sudden demand and supply drove prices up. It then received the complaint of being over priced. This will still be the case today at some times. Pale buttery gold color with a floral and fruity bouquet with hints of honey and hazelnuts with the taste of apples sets this wine apart. Served at 55 degrees fairenheit this wine goes well with with smoked fish, fish grilled or in a sauce, poultry and white meats, including turkey and pork, creamy cheeses.
Silvaner was the most dominate variety in Germany until approximately the late 1970’s. Originally from Austria, it pairs extremely well with foods that have mild flavors - rice dishes that do not involve a lot of spices, mild chicken dishes, to name a couple. The reason for this is, the wine is a very gentle low keyed fruity tasting wine very light in acid.
Pedro Ximénez a desert wine from Spain. This wine has a very strong taste of raisins and molasses. A syrupy kind of wine goes very well with coffee or over vanilla ice cream in the summer. Some say this desert wine borders a high end desert Sherry.
Among the red wines Cabernet Sauvignon is always a favorite. It ripens late and is best suited for clay soil and moderate temperatures because it requires a longer season for the grapes to ripen. Accompanied by salmon, trout and other sauce-free meats it is the favorite red wine of many.
Merlot is another red wine that has grown in popularity. Its dark color, high alcohol content and full body make this wine very supple and velvety. It has three flavors; the currant and cherry flavor, the more herby style of plumb flavoring and the cherry and chocolate flavor. This simple light flavored wine goes well with pates, game, and many casseroles.
Pinot Noir is one of the more challenging wines for winemakers, but that is what makes it exceptional. It is lighter in color than either of the other two red wines we have discussed. It is relatively high in alcohol and is medium to high in acidity. Its aroma is one of wilted roses with a hint of cola. It goes particularly well with coq au vin, boeuf bourguignon, rabbit, ham, chicken and steak. In some areas you may pay more for this wine, but it is well worth the price.
Zinfandel, also known as Zin, is a red-skinned wine grape popular in California because of its intense fruitiness and lush texture. The red grape was extremely popular with home wine makers in the United States during the prohibition. This was due to the very thick skin of the grape. This then made transportation very easy. Typically, Zinfandel tastes of bramble and fresh or fermented red berries. This wine goes well with typical American food- pizza, burgers. It will accent most red sauce meals. It is best served at about 65 degrees.
Chianti is Italy's most famous red wine. Unlike a Cabernet Sauvignon Chianti doesn't drink well by itself. But when drank with food, it is a very bold wine and goes with just about any food. Chianti's acidity matches extremely well with acidic foods like tomatoes, rich dishes like braised rabbit and mature cheeses. The aroma is a hint of violet, with a bright ruby red color.
Rioja red wines are classified into four categories. The first, "Rioja", is the youngest, spending less than a year in oak ageing. A "crianza" is wine aged for at least two years, at least one of which was in oak. "Rioja Reserva" is aged for at least three years, of which at least one year is in oak. Finally, "Rioja Gran Reserva" wines have been aged at least two years in oak and three years in bottle. Because of the ageing times the Reserva and Gran Reserva wines are not necessary produced each year. This wine ages well and has a delicate fruity flavor to go well with steak and other heavy foods.
Lets explore some of the not so common wines. They may be uncommon but they are all excellent wines in their own right.
One of the more uncommon but interesting wines is the Norton wine. In 1835, Dr. Daniel Norton of Virginia developed this variety of grapes that was originally known as the Virginia Seedling. It is widely planted in the Midwest where it is sometimes called Cynthiana and produces a dark, inky wine with plum and cherry flavoring. Horton Vineyards in Virginia is particularly interested in reviving the grape's reputation.
Another rare but interesting wine is the Muscadine wine. It was first discovered by European explorers, who found native American vines growing along the low-lyingsouthern coastal regions. Most Muscadine wines (red and white) are blends, usually given proprietary names by the winery (e.g., "Vintners' Blend"), and vinified in a sweet or semisweet style. Muscadine and its blends have a unique wild and musky aroma and flavor.
Centurion a uncommon wine that hasn’t yet seen widespread acceptance. This wine was developed at the U.C. Davis campus by crossing Cabernet Sauvignon, with Grenache and Carignane. The intention was to produce a Cabernet-like wine which could be grown in the relatively hot Central Valley. Even with it’s limited exposure ot wine lovers, is a definite improvement over traditional Central Valley varieties.
Roussanne probably gets its name from the light-brownish russet cast of its ripe berries. The aroma is not as overtly fruity as some types and can suggest wild flowers or herbal tea. Unlike most white wines, Roussanne ages very well due to its unusual combination of richness and crisp acids.
Marsanne, this wine sometimes uses Roussane as a blending partner. It makes wines that are medium dry, full bodied and very rich in flavor with notes of spice and pear. It is a very deep-colored wine that is fairly full bodied to the point of being described sometimes as waxy.
ADOPTING ANGER MANAGEMENT SKILLS THAT WORK.
There are many, many positive techniques and skills related to anger management. Since anger management seems to affect so many people in society, it is imperative to design and create techniques, teach skills, provide counseling and provide appropriate care and support. Since anger issues affect individuals from childhood to adulthood, obviously it is necessary to teach anger management skills that work for every age group. For the person who is dealing daily with anger problems, it is important to learn skills that will be effective in coping.
One skill that tends to help people deal with negative emotions is acupressure. This technique used as an anger management skill is achieved by tapping or rubbing the body. Using this skill, briskly massaging the body when feeling tense and upset, causes an individual's energy to move around their body which results in relaxation. An anger management skill or techniques known as the Emotional Freedom Technique of EFT can be combined with acupressure to fight against negative emotions. EFT works to balance the brain hemispheres to help an individual admit to their problem and find forgiveness. This anger management skill would be very beneficial in helping a person release feelings of anger and relax.
Adopting positive anger management skills might involve keeping a journal. When an individual writes about the situations which upset them, it helps to get the negative thoughts and emotions out of their head. By journaling about feelings and emotions, a person is able to rid their minds of unhealthy thinking and put them on paper. This anger management activity would provide specific details and perhaps triggers which usually set the individual off. Being able to read and review reactions to situations, a person might be capable of making changes in their behavior.
When considering anger management skills, there's one which is quite easy to adopt. Removing themselves from a threatening situation might eliminate the problem. If a person realizes they have difficulties controlling their temper, they might consider staying away from situations which may cause heated arguments. If a person has a regular pattern of lashing out during specific conversations, they ought to avoid those incidents. Some people who have anger issues seem to go looking for a reason to get upset. If aiming to adopt anger management skills, these people should attempt to change this way of thinking. Instead of going to the problem, they ought to run from the problem.
Adopting anger management skills that work is definitely an essential step when striving to cope with feelings of rage and anger. There are many suggestions and recommendations offered on Internet sites related to anger management skills. It would certainly help to visit these sites and read the information and advice. It is unreasonable to think that a person will use all of the anger management skills suggested. However finding one that works may mean trying each of them at least once. When an individual is attempting to gain control and eliminate the negative feelings normally dictating their life, exploring anger management skills is necessary to find a technique or skill which works for them.
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